When you hear people talk about boundaries, you probably think about how parents want to set them, and teenagers want to rebel against them. Boundaries, though, can be an interesting topic.
When you dig deeper into teenage psychology, you may find that teenagers actually desire boundaries. This may come as a shock, but there’s a very good reason they desire those boundaries, perhaps more than they will admit.
The Reason Teenagers Desire Boundaries in their Lives
Wise parents know that teens need boundaries, but what many parents don’t know is that teens actually want them. You are probably thinking, “not my teen.” Well, to make sense of this we first have to understand like Saint Paul in Romans 7. Adults and teens, alike, are constantly engaging in a spirit-flesh war. No, our flesh does not want boundaries but our flesh is not the sum of who we are. Our spiritual side craves boundaries.
Teens are no different. When appropriate boundaries aren’t given and enforced, it is analogous to driving cross country with no traffic lights or speed limits. All security goes away, and when security goes away for a teen, so does his rational thinking.
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