Most of us were raised that if one person doesn’t get to participate in something, no one does. This was deemed to be “fair” and “right.”
What if, however, there are times where leaving your child out of an activity is actually the fair thing to do? There are certain rights of adulthood that a child should learn they can’t participate in until they’re older. In this way, double standards might actually benefit your child.
Why Holding Double Standards Can Be a Good Parenting Practice
We hear a lot of negative talk when it comes to double standards. But are there times when double standards are appropriate? Sure there are! Especially when it comes to raising our kids. Our kids need to know they are kids and not adults. Therefore, they need to be content with not enjoying all the rights and privileges of adulthood.
When it comes to moral standards, parents want to set good examples by modeling appropriate behavior. But, as one quick example, I see parents who wouldn’t order a steak unless their kids could have one too. Kids need to see adulthood as something to aspire to—not as something they’re already entitled to.
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